Dear Dr. Cath...

I WORK in sales and meet a lot of women as I travel around the country. I would see myself as a pretty experienced lover and know a lot of techniques to give a woman a good time. But I've never been able to master how to make a woman have more than one orgasm at a time. Please could you tell me what to do?

Dr Cath says...

BEING good in bed isn't about knowing lots of techniques, but knowing which to use for which lover. Every woman responds differently and you find out what works by trial and error. You have to be receptive to when a woman is enjoying herself and when she's putting on a brave face but wishing you'd stop. So brush up your bedroom communication skills.

If you pick up women when travelling around the country, prolonged courtship isn't likely to be part of your normal foreplay. Good communication is easier if you know your bed partner but even if she's a one-night stand you can make an effort to detect her response. Watch her face, her breathing and body movements to guide you. If you're not getting the response you'd like then try something different or ask her to guide you to where she would like more attention. When a women gets sexually stimulated, the excitement mounts then levels out, reaching a plateau. From this point, further stimulation can push her over the edge into an orgasm. The process is similar for men, but after they ejaculate they can't be immediately stimulated again. Not so for women.

Gentle stimulation after climax can keep a woman at the plateau level leading to a second climax soon after.

Once your partner has had an orgasm, gently stroke her breasts and thighs.

Avoid the clitoral area initially as this might be sensitive and painful for a few minutes. Keep watching er response and increase he intensity of stimulation hen her excitement starts to ount again.

But remember, 10 per cent of women can't achieve one orgasm let alone multiple ones, so don't feel rejected if you don't achieve your goals.

Also, to experience orgasm at all, most women require more than just physical stimulation. If you want to give a girlfriend a night of pleasure don't forget the importance of romance and seduction.